11-6-22 Setlist: Battle Belongs Move Your Heart Great Are You Lord Defender Sermon Notes: Key Passage: Now David’s son Absalom had a beautiful sister named Tamar. And Amnon, her half brother, fell desperately in love with her. Amnon became so obsessed with Tamar that he became ill. She was a virgin, and Amnon thought he could never have her. 2 Samuel 13:1-2 Key Passage: So Amnon lay down and pretended to be sick. And when the king came to see him, Amnon asked him, “Please let my sister Tamar come and cook my favorite dish as I watch. Then I can eat it from her own hands.” So David agreed and sent Tamar to Amnon’s house to prepare some food for him. 2 Samuel 13:6-7 Key Passage: Then he said to Tamar, “Now bring the food into my bedroom and feed it to me here.” So Tamar took his favorite dish to him. But as she was feeding him, he grabbed her and demanded, “Come to bed with me, my darling sister.” “No, my brother!” she cried. “Don’t be foolish! Don’t do this to me! Such wicked things aren’t done in Israel. Where could I go in my shame? And you would be called one of the greatest fools in Israel. Please, just speak to the king about it, and he will let you marry me.” But Amnon wouldn’t listen to her, and since he was stronger than she was, he raped her. Then suddenly Amnon’s love turned to hate, and he hated her even more than he had loved her. “Get out of here!” he snarled at her. 2 Samuel 13:10-15 Key Passage: “No, no!” Tamar cried. “Sending me away now is worse than what you’ve already done to me.” But Amnon wouldn’t listen to her. He shouted for his servant and demanded, “Throw this woman out, and lock the door behind her!” 2 Samuel 13:16-17 Key Passage: Her brother Absalom saw her and asked, “Is it true that Amnon has been with you? Well, my sister, keep quiet for now, since he’s your brother. Don’t you worry about it.” So Tamar lived as a desolate woman in her brother Absalom’s house. When King David heard what had happened, he was very angry. And though Absalom never spoke to Amnon about this, he hated Amnon deeply because of what he had done to his sister. Two years later, when Absalom’s sheep were being sheared at Baal-hazor near Ephraim, Absalom invited all the king’s sons to come to a feast. 2 Samuel 13:20-23 Key Passage: Absalom told his men, “Wait until Amnon gets drunk; then at my signal, kill him! Don’t be afraid. I’m the one who has given the command. Take courage and do it!” So at Absalom’s signal they murdered Amnon. Then the other sons of the king jumped on their mules and fled. 2 Samuel 13:28-29 Key Passage: Absalom fled to his grandfather,…. He stayed there in Geshur for three years. And King David, now reconciled to Amnon’s death, longed to be reunited with his son Absalom. 2 Samuel 13:37-39 Key Verse: However, the people still sacrificed at the pagan shrines, though only to the Lord their God. 2 Chronicles 33:17 Unresolved hurts will cause you to be: 1. Easily Offendable. 2. Unself-aware. Key Verse: How can you think of saying, ‘Friend, let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye. Luke 6:42 3. Unable to take correction. Key Verse: Listen to advice and accept discipline, and at the end you will be counted among the wise. Proverbs 19:20 (NIV) Key Verse: An open rebuke is better than hidden love! Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy. Proverbs 27:5-6 (NLT) 4. Brings out the dangerous emotions. 5. Will cause you to want to control. What do we do if we are hurting? 1. Get help 2. Forgive i. Write a letter you will never send, or use the open chair method. ii. Read the letter out loud. iii. Write a second letter of forgiveness. Discussion Questions: 1. What do you feel like God is saying to you through this message? 2. What blindspots are in your life? 3. What are some changes you want to see this week given what God is saying to you?